BEAUTY, SELF-ESTEEM AND WOMEN OVER 50
Much is being written nowadays about young girls feeling pressure to look good in the age of
the Selfie, – how everyone looks better, is enjoying a more exciting life style etc, etc.
Much less is said about women over 50. The ethereal beautiful Kristen Scott Thomas has her fears that she will ‘just disappear’ into middle age.
She told how she felt like an ‘old ragbag’ compared to younger co-stars and confided that she felt ‘invisible’ while surrounded by young actresses at the Cannes Film Festival.
‘I’m not talking about in a private setting, at a dinner party or anything. But when you’re walking down the street, you get bumped into, people slam doors in your face – they just don’t notice you,’ she said.
This loss of self-esteem – based on age and the feeling of a ‘lost youth’ – is all the more aggravated by divorce or widowhood.
To quote Kristen again, ‘Somehow, you just vanish. It’s a cliché, but men grow in gravitas as they get older, while women just disappear.’
I must admit that when my husband died, I felt for a while that I had wasted 20 years of my life (the length of our marriage), and that I could not bounce back.
Mercifully, I did! It did not happen overnight and, like all changes, happened in little steps. For me, it consisted of:-
- Taking a personal trainer and doing something for ME
- Having a make-over – sometimes you have to put on a ‘face’ to feel empowered
- Seeing a dietician and going on a weight-loss campaign
- Joining a networking group where I regained my public speaking skills.
If I had lost my identity after (only) 9 years as a carer, imagine what it is like for a woman who had been a wife, mother for several decades and suddenly finds herself alone?
If this is how you feel, ladies. Take heart! A solution is at hand: I have surrounded myself with a group of beauticians, stylists and coaches who can empower you again. You may not be ready yet to date, but I would dare say that my team and I can help you embrace the knowledge you have gained over the years, celebrate your successes as a mother and a wife, and venture out there as a stronger person…