Moving On (1)
So enough time has passed since you last went on a date. All your friends are married and the friends of your friends are also married, so where do you go?
As reluctant as you might be, the only answer is to go through an agency or the internet. The problem with agencies is that they are expensive and often do not offer a ‘money back’ if you/they are unsuccessful.
Internet Dating: So that leaves the internet… But which site? If you are looking for a long term relationship with someone with a similar background/interests, I would firstly point you away from any Tinder-type app. Better to go through a site which will give you information about the dater’s education, marital status and hobbies.
Look for sites that will filter that information – to some extent, at least. By that I mean that – in my case for instance – although I have stated that I am looking for a date living within zone 1 of Central London, I am still being sent details of men in Cornwall, Manchester – you name it!
Your photo: The next step is building your profile: start with a good photo of yourself. It takes 7 seconds to make an impression of yourself. If your picture puts people off, I can guarantee they are not going to dwell on your page and move very quickly onto the next. In my coaching consultancy, I suggest the use of a good photographer – not with a view to producing a doctored image of yourself, – but with the objective of depicting you as you are. An experienced photographer will capture your personality. As the old adage states, a picture says more than a thousand words. So it is a worthwhile investment (and you will get to use it for other purposes too).
The photo session itself: In the context of your photo shoot, be sure to wear different outfits and accessories.
Whilst we are on the subject of photos, I would like to address the issue around your profile on other sites. It is highly conceivable that you will join more than one app. If that is the case, I would suggest that you post a different set of pictures and perhaps even a different anachronym. This is to give yourself a second chance with the viewer.
Your profile: As for the wording of your profile, I strongly recommend you seek the help of a friend or a consultant to assist you. Writing about oneself is one of the hardest tasks you can undertake! An outsider will be able to point out your hobbies, habits and traits that will be of interest to your audience.
Ok so now you are set, your photo and profile content have been approved and you are out there live, and you are now receiving daily pictures and profiles of potential love partners.
For more information about what to do next, go to Moving On (2).